How to end relationships without fighting

Wohooo, this is quite a topic, and honestly, I was dealing with this issue quite a bit and I for quite some time, I did not quite find a solution to the topic. I had to really go through some self growth to finally understand: 

When a relationship comes to an end, it does hurt. On both ends. Even though one finds that it just does not fit any longer, still you once loved that person and the most horrible thing is to hurt them. And you know that, when you end the relationship, this is what you do. 

Ok. Let’s face it: it is not fair to end it in a message, please be at least physically present and allow the other person to show emotions. Stand there upright and say it out loud. You do not have to explain yourself over and over, you do not have to make this a long story. But say it in their face. Look them into the eyes. And then comes the most difficult part: allow the other person to react in whatever way it feels right for them. They shout at you? Let them. They call you things? Let them. Let them do what they need to do to deal with the loss they experience. 

And if they act as if it is ok? Let them. Do not come up with things like – you never liked me in the first place, nothing. 

There is two things in fact, that you should know: #1: it hurts. But not everyone is able to show that emotion, some hide behind anger, some behind indifference, some start to blame you, but in fact, this is just the mask they need to wear, because the real emotion is to strong to admit it happening. 

#2: you leave. Your partner is in pain and reacting. This is the price you pay. Don’t fight it. Don’t let your ego win this game. Do not react. Act out of your own love. See the pain. See the grief. Let compassion be your driver. And let love win. But still stay strong and leave before things get bad. Wounds need time. Give them time to heal. 

Lots of love,
Tina