I love you, I love you not

Ever been in a relationship, where one partner was not quite sure if he wants to be in it or out? This is probably one of the worst things that can happen to you.

What does it feel like to be in these kinds of relationships? Well, in the beginning, everything will be fine. But after a while, things will change little by little. You will fight about nonsense. You will feel like you need to be perfect, but the more you try, the less it works.

Your partner is grumpy about basically everything. You are starting to question everything, but mostly yourself. Am I good enough? What can I do to make my partner happy? And you will do the most critical thing: you will lose focus on yourself, you will lose focus on what makes you happy.

There you are – in a trap. You want that person to commit, but whatever you do, it does not work. Not once, but every once in a while you think about leaving, but whenever you are about to do so, something beautiful happens that makes you believe that it might still work out – and you stay.

But what is the solution? – you might ask. Well, unfortunately, there is none or not one that you would like to hear about. There is only one thing, that we can tell you: if your partner tells you and shows you that they do not want to commit, then you should believe them. Don’t ask for a reason, it is theirs to deal with. And don’t beat yourself up, it is not an act of none-care, it is an act of self-care.

“If you love something, set it free. If it comes back to you, its yours forever. If it doesn’t, then it was never meant to be.” – Unknown.
Btw – this works for every relationship, not just the uncommited ones. 😉

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Lots of love,

Tina