Love hurts – is that true?

We have heard that myth all the time: Love hurts. But is this really true? And if so, why do we continue to seek for love, if it is made to hurt us?

We all try to seek happiness, but more then that, we try to avoid pain. That is THE one reason, why so many of us are afraid to truly and fully love, to give it our best, to fully engage in the relationship with a person, that we barely know. Because we think we might not be good enough, not beautiful enough, not young enough… and believe me, I know what I am talking about, because I thought that too.

And that hurts. It hurts to be not good enough, to be too old, not loveable, not beautiful… but is this the truth? Let’s face it: what we are afraid of is not what IS, it is mostly what we think could be.

An example? Let’s say you meet this awesome guy or girl if you are a man, and that person is young, has an amazing body, the spirit is awesome and you love every second you two share. You in comparison, you are not particularly big, but you have a little bit too much here and there, and you are ways older. How do you feel? What are your thoughts? Let me guess: what if that person does not like me, what if I am too old, what if I am not attractive for them… did I get it right?

Well… and let me share why I know this so well: because that is what I thought about myself in the past. I made myself small and that hurt. But taking a closer look, it is not what the other person said, it was what I thought he might say. So the pain that I felt was not existing, it was only in my head.

So is it really love that hurts or is it the thoughts that we think, to prevent real love from happening? For me, it is the latter…let me know about you.

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