SR Live Talk Part 7: Is there a right time for communication in relationships?

In relationships, especially if you have some „heavier“ talks, that need to happen – which does not mean that it has necessarily had to be about the relationship, it might be about how to solve a huge outside problem – it is essential to find the right timing.

And – watching and hearing my clients, I understand that very often, these heavy talks end up to be brought on the table when emotions are already far beyond 100. Why? Because we are angry and in a negative spiral, and very likely we end up telling our partner in what else he failed over time.

And obviously, this does not lead to a good solution, does it? So the counterintuitive it sounds, the right timing for these kinds of talks is when the relationship is running smoothly and everything is going well. Now you might say – no, these times are so rare, I do not want to mess up when we finally find back to have a connection. Well…

I get that. It is difficult to start something that feels like having a potential that can be negative, especially if you have waited a long time for the relationship to experience this positivity. But let me tell you 2 things: first: if you want to find a positive solution, you have to come from a positive situation. Second: if you have more positive solutions, the relationship is likely to continue in a more positive way.

Was that an aha moment? Let me know in the comments below…and if you need any help