Are you ready to take care of yourself? And about your partner?

As discussed earlier in the blog, when we are babies, it is obvious that we are taken care of, because we are unable to take care of ourselves. We depend on our parents for survival. When getting older, step by step, we need to learn to take care of ourselves. Today, we are taking a deeper look. 

When thinking about taking care of ourselves, we basically think this means getting a job, having our own place to live… but we tend to forget, that it also means to take care about our emotions, our pain, and our wounds, even though the ones we got in our childhood. It means stepping out of our children’s shoes and getting independent.

Usually, and as long as we are single, this works fine, but once with someone, we forget that even though with a partner, we are self-responsible and still can and should take care of ourselves. Instead, we want our partner to take care of our emotions. This works very well at the beginning stage of a relationship, as the focus is mostly on the partner, we want to get to know them, understand what makes them happy. That is perfectly normal. But some time later on, life is going back to normal, we need to get back to normal.

At that point, troubles are very likely, as we need to find a balance between focusing on ourselves and being self-responsible and still taking care of and about our partner. This is where we need to start do get in communications with each other and start compromising. And yes, there are no relationships without a compromise. I will talk about compromise and freedom within relationships soon, promised.

Will it be easy? It depends on you, are you willing to learn, to grow and to compromise? Are you willing to be part of the relationship and proceed? Then yes, it probably will get a little bumpy down the road. But once you have established the „relationship rules“, you are well prepared for the next steps in the future.

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Lots of love,

Tina