Christmas and lockdown – and how to survive as a single (2 / 4)

A Christmas with LOVE
Learn
Oppose
Vow
Envision

OPPOSE 

What you should not do this Christmas is basically what you should not do at Christmas in general. But when alone at home, some things come easier: 

Like overeating and opening a little bit too much wine. Or champagne. Or whatever it is, that makes you forget. It is ok to enjoy, but once you try to satisfy your needs with things that come from outside, you are trying to satisfy the wrong angle.

Listening too much to other people that ask too many questions. Like why are you still single? What are you doing at this time all by yourself? What are you doing wrong to not finally have someone in your life? Especially our loved ones like to ask these questions. And I know that is not really comforting and hard to take on. But maybe try to find an answer instead – like – it is better than being with the wrong one, unhappy. 

Overthinking. And by writing this, I do not mean constructive thoughts, but destructive ones. The ones that make you unhappy. The ones that are not focused on making it better, but that makes you feel worse. Basically, it is asking yourself the questions that usually only people that are meaning well but just don’t know what they are doing are putting up for you. Just like the ones mentioned above. 

And if these thoughts come up, remember that it is just thoughts. Remember the good things you have in your life. Remember, that there is a pro and a con to everything. EVERY THING. Being single means not having weird conversations and fights. This means you do not have to engage in things that you might not like. This means you are free to do what you want. Basically, it means you still have the things that people being in a relationship once in a while do miss. So instead of engaging in the “why don’t I” thinking, think – this is what I have. As long as I have it. And once the situation changes, I will enjoy being in a relationship. 

Lots of love,
Tina