Freedom or relationship. Or both?

I hear about this quite a lot, and especially men, but also some women come up with this doubt: when I am in a relationship, I will lose my freedom. Is this true?

Well, depends from what point of view you are looking at it. Generally, I would like to answer this with a clear no, but for you to feel it like being a clear no, you have to have a relationship mindset. Or in other words: you need to wish to be in a relationship.

What does that mean? See, no matter what choices in life you take, doing one thing always comes with a price: if you choose to do this, you cannot do something else at the same time. To keep it simple: if you want to do sports at 6 am in the morning, sleeping in is off the table. The same goes for relationships: if you really want to be in a relationship, you need to be willing to pay the price and give up some „lonely wolf“ habits in order to be with someone, make time for the relationship and take responsibility. Is this worth it? If your answer is yes, congratulations, you are ready to try and explore relationships.

If this is too much for you? Well, then probably the best is to be honest with yourself and stay away from trying to love someone. Your time for relationship might come, it is just not there yet, and to be honest: this kind of semi-commitment will always end up in being a source of terrible pain – for the both of you. It’s not worth it.

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Lots of love,

Tina