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He doesn’t love me anymore – is that true?

What if – your boyfriend tends to come home late, canceled your date night, and seems to be distracted in his mind? Does that mean he does not love me anymore? Does that mean he has someone else? Does that mean he thinks about leaving me or will break up with me any time soon?

In fact, there is not one particular answer to this, because it depends on more factors. How long are you two together? In case you just got to know each other and are still in the period of dating, it is not a too good sign, especially if it was different before. If you are in a long term relationship, it might mean nothing. Another fact is: how long is this going on? Is it only some nights, or is this already for some weeks? And many more. 

As we see in the paragraph above: there is not one simple answer to that question, in fact, it cannot be answered from „outside“. So before we are going to ponder our minds on things that we will never be able to understand, there is one thing that we should do: ask them. Not in a suspicious way, just show interest in what is going on in their life. People are different and deal with situations in a different way. Maybe he simply has some difficulties at work and needs to figure out a problem. Maybe something else is on his mind where he needs to focus on. Maybe his answer will clear everything up for you. 

If there is no real answer to it, you might want to give it a bit more time, and this time, you will use it without being worried. Do something nice for yourself. Grant yourself a massage, spend some time in a nice spa, a coffee with the best friend, a girls’ night out. Enjoy your life. And if the behavior does not change within a reasonable time frame, you will still have enough time to discuss it, worry about it, or make a decision. 

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