Love, relationships and believes around

About love, need and the reasons to be in a relationship. And – most of all – about love to be unconditional. No matter what.

When it comes to love, there are so many myths and wrong tracks, that we ironically believe the be the ultimate track, the one and only truth. So especially in earlier stages of our lifes, we tend to believe that, if one is told that we are loved, this is going to be a serious relationship or these people are already in the middle of the same. 

I am not saying that this is completely wrong, chances are you are dealing with someone that is saying such thing just for that particular reason. But if we look at love, at unconditional love especially, it is not quite like that. 

So let me give you an example: I have some friends, male friends. People that I love with my full heart, unconditionally. I tell them so once in a while, and I do not want to dismiss them from my life. And I won’t lie to you either, some of them are super sexy and attractive, so it is not about that. But strangely, I don’t feel any need to be in an intimate or romantic relationship with them. At all. Why? 

For a very simple reason: our values do not match. You get to know that person and over time, simply you find out that they do things, that are simply not sexy to you at all. Don’t get me wrong, this is not about perfection, but about life goals. For example, if one wants to travel, one wants to exclusively be a home. One wants a monogamous relationship, the other wants polygamie. One wants children, the other one cannot imagine themselves to be a parent. Can you see? That does not mean that there cannot be love. There is just no way. 

So if you ever meet a new person, tell them everything you appreciate about them. There is too less appreciation in this world anyways. And be aware that this does not mean you need to get into a relationship, move in together or marry that person. It just means – there is things that you particularly like about them. Don’t be afraid to shy them away. If you want a loving relationship, you need someone who is not afraid to handle love 🙂 

Lots of love,
Tina