Never ever do this when it comes to relationships

There is one thing that my clients do struggle very much when it comes to relationships: there is that one amazing person they met or dated, and they feel the connection and everything went smooth and great – but somehow, not so much.

It’s nothing big, it’s tiny things. Like it takes them forever to respond to your texts, and when I say forever, I don’t mean hours, I mean days. It’s tiny things like you ask them what they did for the weekend, and there is no answer to this. Maybe they are even talking to you, but somehow, it feels like even though they seem to talk, you feel like you are excluded.

In other words: it’s the things that – if you tell them to your friends, one by one instead of the whole story, they would say things like: “Cmon, you are too sensitive.” And you believe it. Because it is nice to have someone around. And because they have those explanations, that sounds perfectly fine. Like – I was so busy. I fell asleep with my phone. I needed time for myself. Or, changing the subject, complimenting you, so you would be overwhelmed with good and forget your initial complaint and about how the overall situation looks and feels like.

Still, your gut doesn’t like what is happening, and somewhere deep inside, you know that.

So let me tell you one secret to dating:

NO ONE IS EVER TOO BUSY TO TEXT YOU, CALL YOU, CONNECT TO YOU, IF THEY WANT TO, THEY DO!

Autsch. I know. I know that that realization is not what you wanted to hear. But as the person that is telling you about how to get the life of your dreams, I feel the responsibility to tell you the truth.

They might not even have bad intentions, maybe they do not know what they want. My advice? Let them find out. On their own. You deserve someone who is dedicated and committed just like yourself.

So the best advice I can give you: If they don’t text you if they have no time if they keep their life a secret – don’t pursue them, but let them go. For good. Someone better is waiting for you, and you need your eyes and hands free to grab them and hold them tight. And enjoy the relationship you deserve.

Lots of love!

Tina