SR Live Talk Part 9: How to improve communication in relationships? Can communication through art bring healing?

The first thing to do when it comes to improving communication is to be ready for the communication myself. In an earlier blog post I explained the importance of an open heart to create understanding over communication, and this cannot be created out of anger.

Then you might want to make sure your partner is not angry and ready to listen, which I discussed in last week’s post.

Once both things are in alignment, you have created a fruitful base for a good communication. You are ready to go.

Keep the conversation itself on topic, try to keep emotions out of the way unless you need to address how certain things or situations make you feel. But as you are not in this particular situation right now, make sure that simply being reminded of this emotion does not trigger your emotion and you can keep yourself in a place where you come from your heart.

What I like to recommend to couples that have had a lot of difficult discussions lately, but have to overcome an obstacle within short time, to set a particular time aside for the discussion, and once that time is over, take notes where you left of, and make a plan for how and when to continue and go back to couple time. You need this limited time – first of all to come to a conclusion earlier, and second to not get lost in the discussion and miss out to feel yourself as the loving couple you are in the first place.

Does that make sense? Or do you need help?

There was an additional question addressed to me in this talk, if healing can be applied through art? And my answer is yes, but in my opinion, not for the couple, but for the artist, that is able to express feelings and pain through the painting. The painting might solve a relationship in a way then, as the artist heals and therefore, is able to bring more love into the relationship.