Why am I single?

What a funny question. No one can really answer this question for you, except for yourself. But here are some thoughts, that might help you to find out. 

Let’s start with something pretty common: 

• You are too picky. You have an exact idea of how your partner should look like, what he should do to earn his money, how much he should earn, what his hobbies should be, how his character should fit yours, and if something is not matching, he is out. Don’t get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with having an idea of what you want, because if you wouldn’t have this, how would you know you got it. But being too narrow and not allowing some things not to be perfect will set you in a very unfortunate position of being on a mission impossible. 
• You don’t know what you want at all. Quite the opposite of what we had before. The problem with this is – even though you might have an amazing guy in front of you, you might not be able to see it. This can also go hand in hand with being picky, so he is not your type? But as you don’t know what you want, you get stuck in the maybe, maybe not question. Until he moves on. 
• Lack of self-confidence: this might make you end up in relationships, that you think you deserve. They might be abusive, or just boring – but for sure they are one thing: not what you truly want. But as you suffer from low self-esteem, you probably don’t think you deserve better and before ending up alone, you rather go with the one you have. 
• Fears. Just like low self-esteem, fears prevent us from getting the love and the relationship that we desire and deserve. You might have even found the perfect partner, but then, your fear of losing him kicked in, and you started to act out of your triggers instead of your confidence and charming way of simply being a woman, in the flow. You will need someone on the outside, to constantly make you feel secure, and that is too much of a job for your man. 

So what to do about this? First of all, think about your relationships in the past, think about your way of choosing the right one. And think about anything similar, that kept recurring in your relationships. So in other words: sweep in front of your own door first. Then go and ask someone in 🙂 

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